If there was any piece of advice I could give someone, it would be to always use loving words. Even when you’re upset with someone. Because later, we won’t remember what the fight was about, but we will remember the words we used. The use of harsh, spiteful words will hurt more than anything physical. After some time, a bruise will heal, but we tend to remember words for a long time following the disagreement.
It is easy to resort to being mean when you have a big disagreement with someone. It is up to us whether we are going to resort to hurting others’ feelings to get our way. Most of the time, it is not worth it to damage a relationship because you are frustrated about something. I can tell you by experience that it is not worth it to put someone else down to lift yourself up. We should always try to use words that uplift others. When I was little, my mom used to tell us, “If you can’t say something nice, don’t say nothin’ at all” (if you don’t know what this is from, go watch a bunch of old Disney movies please). This phrase has been at least a million times in my house because it’s such a good rule to have for yourself. I guarantee you that someone is looking up to you and you never really know who is. When you use words to hurt people, those who look up to you are going to think it’s okay to do the same. I have two sisters; an older sister and a younger sister. From this, I have learned that younger kids often want to be just like the older person. This means that the older sibling has the power to lead the younger siblings in either good or bad directions. I know I would never want my little sister to go in the wrong direction. If I use words that hurt others, she may start doing the same. I know I don’t want people to not hang out with her because she uses words that hurt others. To prevent this, I really have to watch myself. I must think about the impact my words will have on others before I actually say them. Just as we can use words to impact others negatively, we can also use words to affect others positively. I think one of the best ways to brighten someone’s spirits is to compliment them. I don’t mean just telling someone you like their shoes. I mean give someone a genuine compliment. It’s really cool how your words can make someone else happy. You never know who’s listening to you and if you use words to uplift it will benefit you and everyone around you. Most of the time, it is not hard to use your words positively, but we must be cautious when we are frustrated or angry. In a moment of anger it is easy to forget to try to look at others through the eyes of our Heavenly Father. People can say things they don’t really mean simply because they are angry and do not have the self control to not say those hurtful things. If we learn to control our words and not use them to hurt others, we can develop better relationships with everyone around us.
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My name is Ellie. I am a sophomore at BYU Idaho. I am excited to live life and to share a small piece of it with you!
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